Setting boundaries with family after the arrival of a new baby can be an important part of ensuring that you and your baby get the rest and care you need. Here are some tips for setting boundaries with family after a newborn:
1. Communicate your needs: Let your family members know what your needs and expectations are. Be clear about what you need in terms of rest, privacy, and assistance with the baby.
2. Be firm but kind: Setting boundaries can be difficult, especially with family members. It's important to be firm in your boundaries while still being kind and respectful.
3. Set realistic expectations: Make sure that the boundaries you set are reasonable and achievable. Don't be afraid to adjust your boundaries as needed.
4. Enlist help: If you need help enforcing your boundaries, consider enlisting the help of a partner, friend, or other family member.
5. Be consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to setting boundaries. Stick to your boundaries and don't waver, even if family members push back.
Some examples of boundaries you might consider setting with family after a newborn include limiting visits or setting specific visiting hours, asking family members to call before coming over, or asking for help with specific tasks such as cooking or cleaning instead of having family members come over to hold the baby. Remember that setting boundaries is important for both you and your baby's well-being, and it's okay to prioritise your need during this time.
Medically reviewed by Dr. Judith Ong, Obstetrics and Gynaecology.
MBBS (Singapore), MRCOG (UK), M.Med O&G (Singapore), FAMS (O&G), M.Med Sexual and Reproductive Health (Sydney)